It was a landmark day for India y'day. Finally things like sex and now gay sex is talked about in open. Finally we are becoming normal - talking about things, discussing and not do a hush hush of everything related to sex - and i had voiced my thoughts on this long ago. Now talking about gay sex is taking it a step further and I am only proud of our country today, to be able to talk and discuss the untouched subjects. "That" is what i say is normal.
In any revolution / big change there will be divided parties, for and against - it always have been, but it surely does not mean that there should not be any reform. Lets not fear that...and whom to fear - people who are making senseless talks? well y'day news channels but obviously covered this big story, here are some snippets of how absurd those who stand against it sounded...
- It is a disease - need to be cured
- It is a disease that we got from west
- Now that we make it legal it will spread
- It is unnatural
- More people will experiment now
- We dont mind-let them do what they want, just dont bring it in public
- What will we tell our children
Now i totally ignore the 1st three points mentioned - as they sound too stupid, homosexuality is no flu or infection which will spread by contacting or kissing.
About it being unnatural. Those who are saying this don't understand that it is only their 'natural' instinct which attracts to the same sex. And by that law we straight lot are unnatural for them.
People will experiment more? well i thought a forbidden fruit was the one that people went after. Anyhow what makes them feel that those who have to experiment are not experimenting already ?
They say - do it but don't bring it in open. This is the most hilarious part of it. Gay sex being legalized does not mean that all the guys and girls will now come out in open and start having sex in public...parks, malls and roads. They will have it in the privacy of their homes like they have been doing it for decades, only difference is it is nor more a crime in eyes of law.
What none of the guys who stand and shout against it understand- by bringing in this change nothing will in their lives. All it will change is the lives of the gay community. All it says is, if they are caught having sex they will not be put behind bars. That is all that changes. That is all...it is so simple.
Yes I agree on the last point where parents are saying how will we explain this to our kids. I have a very simple solution to it. If you believe in it,it is a cake walk...it is exactly how i say topic of sex should be handled in India - by talking and not hush hushing.
For so many years our society is built on a man and a woman relationship. Yes, I agree, but we are changing. So lets talk to our kids about it as normal we talk about anything else. The moment you try to hush up, hide and cover things with lie, a cloud is built on kids mind about things 'not' being normal. It is us who make it look abnormal to kids, the act is not abnormal.
How is it that a kid is ok to see 'mummy' living with 'papa', when in school he is only made to play with boys, and girls have their own thing to do. But when on growing up...boy and girl (momma & papa) are living together...kids never find 'that' abnormal right...coz it was never 'projected' as abnormal by parents. It is in our hands to make look something totally normal as abnormal for children and vice-versa ...
So let kids grow up naturally with all the facts around them, talk to them as openly as you can - with more details as they grow. It cannot go wrong.
I again say what I had said long ago - lets not hush things about sex - lets talk about it to our kids so that they dont consider it a "big deal". The moment we make it a big deal, that is when things start going wrong.
Friday, July 03, 2009
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Hey PK,
How are you????
I really appreciate your points about talking things openly to increase awareness on any subject.... But, I wont agree with you on point which support Homosexuality;
In your post you meant - Homosexuality is Natural!!! I really wonder, if you will be Ok with someone who kills someone because it was his/her 'natural' instinct.... Do u support suicide because someone has that instinct... Why don't you take it as Exception of Natural...
I do believe that it should not be treated as criminal act. But there should be some laws to discourage it & not to encourage....
Anyway, these are my views & u r most welcome to differ from me.
Regards
Navrang
http://navrangblog.blogspot.com
Hey Pk.... I had commented here.. but I guess u haven't approved or may be u didn't it.... Can you chk ur SPAM box!!!
Regards
Navrang
http://navrangblog.blogspot.com
Good post overall. I can see where you stand on this subject :)
I disagree with your "natural instinct" justification as it makes it sound like anything that is a natural instinct is not wrong. There are many crimes commited in the country that are based on natural instinct. By crime, I mean anything that goes against the laws. Article 377 was the law up until now. And I think its not a bad thing for the courts to repeal that article if it leads to inequality or injustice for a group or minority.
And one last thing. We all have to consider the ramifications of a society where same-sex is considered normal, especially the impact on children, education, religion, and communities.
@ Navrang & C - I am not surprised by your comment...i can understand how u feel, even i felt the same untill i made a couple of gay friends...that is when i understood one thing...that the way i felt abt gay relationships (so not possible kinds) is exactly how they feel abt straight relationships. I have many close gay friends so i know...they feel totally yukkkieee abt the thot of being with a girl...
also pl understand - if we do not allow them their space and force them into a straight relationship/marriage...it will totally ruin lives of all those involved and of any children who will come out of the marriage...it will be so sad...
yes i agree abt the kids part on how and what they will see growing up...but i totally believe, if this is also what they see growing up, around the world...they will grow up thinking it was normal - unless we drill in their head that it was wrong...
this is my thot..i am sure there is another school of thot too...
only feel that lets them live in peace and live without fear of being imprisoned...that is least that they can ask for - and that is the only thing that law is allowing...
So .. going back to your last para .. when are you gonna have that conversation??? :P
@ cosmic...for me to have that conversation...i first have to be a momma...am sure we will still be in touch around the time i am having these and many other conversation with my kids...shall let you know for sure...
My philosophy is live and let live - I think that attitude reflects quite obviously to most people to get to know me...bottom line I am not homophobic and I don't have intolerable views towards most things so homosexuality is obviously something I wouldn't be frowning down up on or whatever.
Many years ago though when I head someone say it was unnatural I started laughing thinking how archaic their view was. But many months later I thought about it seriously and figured well something that was 'shunned' and considered 'wrong' is being thought about as being alright by many people today...and there is SOMETHING VERY WRONG WITH THAT because things that are considered wrong today (rape or pedophilia for instance) might get to be accepted tomorrow. Where does one draw the line? You can't be liberal about everything under the sun right? And within an hour I found a sensible logic to justify my stand (and accept it as being a good stand). In a gay relationship no one gets hurt. There is no force. It's something 2 consenting adults willingly get into. Where as in other things that we consider unnatural or wrong, there usually is someone who gets hurt and therefore it will ALWAYS REMAIN WRONG.
I do wish that gay people (and there is a difference between being gay and promiscuous which a lot of people surprisingly don't seem to understand) come out of their closet and live happier fuller lives just like 'normal' people.
If the logic helps you, please feel free to use it :)
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