women - they seem to be very complicated but have one common trait the one where - they can be swept off their foot very easy...
right kind of words, right moves and she is yours...
i am watching the series "sex and the city" again, and this time round i am more irritated by Carrie's behavior than when i saw it earlier...as since then i have seen more and more cases of how women let men take advantage of their feelings so easily. women just seem to have no control.
while it is obvious that the guy is using her emotions to set a perfect trap, playing a ping pong by giving hope one day and withdrawing the next, she keeps falling for the trick till she has no shame and dignity left in her.
Carrie a typical subject - does exactly the same, falling into Big's trap time and again post being dumped god knows how many times already...why can't girls take a stance and decide once and for all, rather than falling in and out of love and bed of the same guy...
what's for the guy, he is just being a guy...and woman end up making complete fool's of themselves...proving the point that either they do not have brains...and if they do, it fails to work in front of their heart...or is it irresistible men?
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Saturday, December 20, 2008
Sunday, August 10, 2008
sex market to be legal?
the recent episode of BPO girl being gang raped by 8 to 10 drivers in pune leaves our hearts beating and eyes opened. there cannot be a worst case of animal display, than group of sexually frustrated men ripping apart a girl in rape.
trying to understand why these men do what they do - no i am not giving my empathy...just trying to solve the problem by pinpointing the cause...
these men are sexually frustrated from childhood for many reasons...
1. lack of openness in our society to address sexual questions or discussions...hence these men are brought up in an environment where parents and society has build enough curiosity in their minds.
2. next - lack of sexual exposure, where one is forced to control his natural needs and wait for one day to get married and when he does - he treats his wife worse than how people treat sex workers…
3. post marriage – the rural or typical Indian girl is not allowed to be natural in bed (women are not suppose to have sexual desires you see), so they just 'be there' for their husbands …hence adding to his frustration
4. with unsatisfied desires, he starts looking at girls he thinks of, while f#@#$ his wife ...(he does exaclty that as knows not how to make love)…and ultimately plans to get her… if not her...some other...after all what difference does it make?
I guess we as a society need to bring this change together, for the frustrated animal (the man in question here) will not and cannot bring any change…
Think about it, why are the rape cases not too common in the so called modern group. The answer is, they are more exposed and open to the topic of sex, and also while growing up, somehow explore such opportunities - ofcourse with mutual consent…call it premarital or teenage sex, i dont care, but somewhere am glad that it satisfies their needs, hence creating lesser vultures in open.
Why can't parents be open about discussing sex with teenage children, rather than doing a hush hush job behind closed doors…kids today are not fools - treat them like adults !!!
I ask, what if we make sex legal ? I mean make it easy to buy, make it easily available and legal - commoditize it. It will give a vent to the frustration of these men, let them buy it easy and cheap and they may not find need to rape another innocent on the road.
I think it is time to treat this issue openly rather than conceal it…for more you conceal , more will it aggravate…
trying to understand why these men do what they do - no i am not giving my empathy...just trying to solve the problem by pinpointing the cause...
these men are sexually frustrated from childhood for many reasons...
1. lack of openness in our society to address sexual questions or discussions...hence these men are brought up in an environment where parents and society has build enough curiosity in their minds.
2. next - lack of sexual exposure, where one is forced to control his natural needs and wait for one day to get married and when he does - he treats his wife worse than how people treat sex workers…
3. post marriage – the rural or typical Indian girl is not allowed to be natural in bed (women are not suppose to have sexual desires you see), so they just 'be there' for their husbands …hence adding to his frustration
4. with unsatisfied desires, he starts looking at girls he thinks of, while f#@#$ his wife ...(he does exaclty that as knows not how to make love)…and ultimately plans to get her… if not her...some other...after all what difference does it make?
I guess we as a society need to bring this change together, for the frustrated animal (the man in question here) will not and cannot bring any change…
Think about it, why are the rape cases not too common in the so called modern group. The answer is, they are more exposed and open to the topic of sex, and also while growing up, somehow explore such opportunities - ofcourse with mutual consent…call it premarital or teenage sex, i dont care, but somewhere am glad that it satisfies their needs, hence creating lesser vultures in open.
Why can't parents be open about discussing sex with teenage children, rather than doing a hush hush job behind closed doors…kids today are not fools - treat them like adults !!!
I ask, what if we make sex legal ? I mean make it easy to buy, make it easily available and legal - commoditize it. It will give a vent to the frustration of these men, let them buy it easy and cheap and they may not find need to rape another innocent on the road.
I think it is time to treat this issue openly rather than conceal it…for more you conceal , more will it aggravate…
Saturday, March 03, 2007
Can a man and a woman be “just” friends?
my answer is “why not?”, most of you around will answer no way…
per me, guy and a girl are two people and can be best of friends without having romantic feelings…friendship does not have anything to do with you being from same or opposite sex, friendship for me only means that you get along, hit it off and you care…
if I care for someone, I don’t train my brain to feel differently for a guy or a girl, all my brain…no my heart understands is that it feels for this person, I guess heart is typically sex blind to begin with…brain may understand the difference though…right…I think I am getting somewhere, let me rethink…
if you are ruled by mind and manage relationships – you see the difference, but if you are ruled by heart to drive relationships – you don’t see the difference…I guess this is the answer…
think of kids, they play in the playground, not worrying if half of them are in frocks or shorts, all they know is to slide down the slide, or catch some one quickly at hide and seek, may be coz their minds do not know the sex difference yet…as they grow they are taught about the difference and then brain understands it…so the complications begin…
you might laugh but i feel as strongly for my girlfriends as i can feel for a guy…i have this friend (ex colleague), I am extremely fond of, would get jealous if she mixed too much with other people, I would love to do small things for her, if tissue box on her desk was empty,I would replace it before she knew it was over…happily replaced her in official trips where she did not want to go…got gifts coz I knew she loved to be pampered, when some one got chocolates after travel – I would flick all the bounty’s first and hide it in my drawer – as that was her favourite, I sent million of thanks to God up there when finally she got engaged to her boyfriend… after she left I found a note pad of hers, with notes scribbled from meetings, I picked it up, two years past, I still have it with me, when I miss her - I open it look at her handwriting, touch the scribbled text to feel her again, I simply love her ….ya, now some of you might say "this babe is not straight"…that is exactly my point…why can’t a person truly and selflessly feel for another one without having romantic feelings? Why do you always have to mix it up?
well in here u might give me benefit of doubt, as we both are girls but if I did similar things for a guy…I am sure I will not be spared…and that is what irritates me…why can’t we accept that a girl can genuinely care for a guy without any romance in it – or vice verca…like I do for my friend mentioned above… why can't the world accept if I felt similarly for a guy?
why do you have to doubt the intentions if i care? why do you think i feel for you not the way a friend does but the way a girl would? why can't i feel happy to see you happy? what is wrong if i say you are special? why do you think i expect something in return? why i ask...why?
i am just being me, let me be...i ask nothing from you, i demand nothing from you, i expect nothing from you...
Friday, January 26, 2007
What does sex mean to you?
Woman are always found saying, “all what men have on their mind is sex”
I am not going to debate on if it is true or not, or is it right or wrong. Who am I to pass a judgment? I can only share my views on it…
A recent survey in Australia came out with a result, saying 80% of men were willing to forego sex for a month if they were assured win in Ashes. A sports crazy India, will follow any triangular series be it one day or test series, India or no India, one will choose a team and be with them. Well, if we were to follow the rule Ausies talked about, looking at the cricket season of 10 to 11 months a year, leaves us with 1 to 2 months, and thanks to athletics, PHL, and god knows what all, not sure if one will get any share of 'other' sport…and then we say guys want it all the time.
I was at dinner with my colleagues when one of them tasted a dish and said “it is too good, just like sex” and I went like what??? Is that all what sex mean to men? Or is it that they have it so much that it is nothing but food for them, the bottom line is, they are able to compare it to some well cooked veggies.
If a couple sleep together for the first time, typically the guy will talk about it in his group for a day or two, boast about his latest girl and then move on to discuss the latest Formula 1 race. Let’s see how the girl’s next few days will look like. You will find her smiling all the time, eating, bathing, walking, sleeping, working, practically doing anything, all day long the smile will not leave her face. Before sleeping, she will play the sequence of that day again and again in her mind, close her eyes and try to feel his hands again on all the places he had touched…trust me this can go on for weeks...and then we say - it is men who have it on their minds all the time.
Just a few days back I was talking to a friend when he said don’t know why girls pay so much importance to the first date, first gift, first kiss etc…, I was wondering, my friend being a bachelor under 30, gives no importance to these intimate moments and me being married and in love with my partner probably ever since I grew up, still prepare for his return from his trips and hope for sparkly moments, if they happen I treasure them, and if they don’t, I go heart broken…how can we say that “guys” are the ones possessed by these thoughts?
Spy on to a girlie group in a cozy corner, 8 out of 10 times they will be discussing guys and their "thing"...talk about sizes, moves and what not... trust me the level they can go down to is filth...I am sure guys do it too but they talk about it laugh it out and next thing - they will be philosophizing about life or planning a trip they had been wanting to take for a long time, walk into the girly group, even after 4 hours they will be giggling endlessly as if guys and their “thing” is the only life these girls have…
Don’t get me wrong, I know guys are no saints and they too have an evil mind. Nowhere am I trying to imply that men do not think about sex, they better do…but women are no less, if not more they are equal…but they will die before admitting it.
I am not going to debate on if it is true or not, or is it right or wrong. Who am I to pass a judgment? I can only share my views on it…
A recent survey in Australia came out with a result, saying 80% of men were willing to forego sex for a month if they were assured win in Ashes. A sports crazy India, will follow any triangular series be it one day or test series, India or no India, one will choose a team and be with them. Well, if we were to follow the rule Ausies talked about, looking at the cricket season of 10 to 11 months a year, leaves us with 1 to 2 months, and thanks to athletics, PHL, and god knows what all, not sure if one will get any share of 'other' sport…and then we say guys want it all the time.
I was at dinner with my colleagues when one of them tasted a dish and said “it is too good, just like sex” and I went like what??? Is that all what sex mean to men? Or is it that they have it so much that it is nothing but food for them, the bottom line is, they are able to compare it to some well cooked veggies.
If a couple sleep together for the first time, typically the guy will talk about it in his group for a day or two, boast about his latest girl and then move on to discuss the latest Formula 1 race. Let’s see how the girl’s next few days will look like. You will find her smiling all the time, eating, bathing, walking, sleeping, working, practically doing anything, all day long the smile will not leave her face. Before sleeping, she will play the sequence of that day again and again in her mind, close her eyes and try to feel his hands again on all the places he had touched…trust me this can go on for weeks...and then we say - it is men who have it on their minds all the time.
Just a few days back I was talking to a friend when he said don’t know why girls pay so much importance to the first date, first gift, first kiss etc…, I was wondering, my friend being a bachelor under 30, gives no importance to these intimate moments and me being married and in love with my partner probably ever since I grew up, still prepare for his return from his trips and hope for sparkly moments, if they happen I treasure them, and if they don’t, I go heart broken…how can we say that “guys” are the ones possessed by these thoughts?
Spy on to a girlie group in a cozy corner, 8 out of 10 times they will be discussing guys and their "thing"...talk about sizes, moves and what not... trust me the level they can go down to is filth...I am sure guys do it too but they talk about it laugh it out and next thing - they will be philosophizing about life or planning a trip they had been wanting to take for a long time, walk into the girly group, even after 4 hours they will be giggling endlessly as if guys and their “thing” is the only life these girls have…
Don’t get me wrong, I know guys are no saints and they too have an evil mind. Nowhere am I trying to imply that men do not think about sex, they better do…but women are no less, if not more they are equal…but they will die before admitting it.
Tuesday, April 18, 2006
Every girl wants a Will Truman in her life...
Will Truman and Grace Adler (popularly known as Will and Grace) is a dream relationship for every girl. For them it cannot get better than this.
Why? Just think about it, your best friend, a succsessful and good looking guy , a live in relation (minus the sex), and all the care and love you can ask for.You do not have to worry about refilling milk in the fridge, or making breakfast in the morning, house will be clean, all the bills taken care of, if you have a bad day - you come back and cry on his shoulder, he feels happy for ur new relationships, and guess what he will also advice you on your make up and dresses.....best part is you know for sure that he will not hit on you...
The fact is some where in hearts of hearts we wish that he was straight and they both get together, after all who can be a better life partner than your best friend.
But why are girls scared to have the same relationship with a straight guy? Is it because she does not feel safe? Is sex such a big thing? Why feel scared and go look for a gay guy. What is it? It got to be sex, as apart from it, rest everything is same...you can get emotionally attached to gay as well, miss him when not there, feel cheated when he lies to you, are hurt when he does not do things right...it is absolutely a normal relationship, with happiness and sorrows and also fear of loosing one another, then why look for just a "Will" where you know rest all the insecurity of a relationship exist and only security (if you may call it) is - no sex.....
For me there was no "Will", had a best friend with a similar relationship of caring and sharing.....yes a straight...and guess what...for me the secret dream that we dream for Will and Grace came true, we did what Will and Grace could not ....got married.
Now I have this "Will" of mine, with all the above given features (I will be killed for this) plus a bonus of life time guarantee offer....
So all u girls out there, do not be scared to have a non gay "Will" in your life, you may be missing out on a great relationship, may be a best friend, and if you do not mind (what the heck) sex too. Ofcourse, not all of them will end up in marraige, my husband and I were Will and Grace for 12 years before we tied knot (and our marriage is a surprise to both of us )... but we actually shared the non committed, fun, care, love filled relationship for 12 long years....trust me it can work out with a straight guy also (with or without sex - as you may want it)
So go and have your "Will" in life, you can have it, only if you do not have the condition of him being a gay ...
Why? Just think about it, your best friend, a succsessful and good looking guy , a live in relation (minus the sex), and all the care and love you can ask for.You do not have to worry about refilling milk in the fridge, or making breakfast in the morning, house will be clean, all the bills taken care of, if you have a bad day - you come back and cry on his shoulder, he feels happy for ur new relationships, and guess what he will also advice you on your make up and dresses.....best part is you know for sure that he will not hit on you...
The fact is some where in hearts of hearts we wish that he was straight and they both get together, after all who can be a better life partner than your best friend.
But why are girls scared to have the same relationship with a straight guy? Is it because she does not feel safe? Is sex such a big thing? Why feel scared and go look for a gay guy. What is it? It got to be sex, as apart from it, rest everything is same...you can get emotionally attached to gay as well, miss him when not there, feel cheated when he lies to you, are hurt when he does not do things right...it is absolutely a normal relationship, with happiness and sorrows and also fear of loosing one another, then why look for just a "Will" where you know rest all the insecurity of a relationship exist and only security (if you may call it) is - no sex.....
For me there was no "Will", had a best friend with a similar relationship of caring and sharing.....yes a straight...and guess what...for me the secret dream that we dream for Will and Grace came true, we did what Will and Grace could not ....got married.
Now I have this "Will" of mine, with all the above given features (I will be killed for this) plus a bonus of life time guarantee offer....
So all u girls out there, do not be scared to have a non gay "Will" in your life, you may be missing out on a great relationship, may be a best friend, and if you do not mind (what the heck) sex too. Ofcourse, not all of them will end up in marraige, my husband and I were Will and Grace for 12 years before we tied knot (and our marriage is a surprise to both of us )... but we actually shared the non committed, fun, care, love filled relationship for 12 long years....trust me it can work out with a straight guy also (with or without sex - as you may want it)
So go and have your "Will" in life, you can have it, only if you do not have the condition of him being a gay ...
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